Guilt, Motivation, + Discipline
Today, I was reading an awesome blog post about creativity by a woman I admire, and all I could think was "I feel guilty that I haven't posted in so long." That thought made me sad, not just because it distracted me and reminded me that it had been so long since I have written, but because I started to think about what expectations that feeling was rooted in?
The number one reason I was scared to start a blog was because I felt like it would turn from something I like to do, into something I had to do.
Staying in Touch
Most of my closest friends don't live in the same town as me anymore, which is an incredible challenge, especially since I have been very privileged in the past to have most of my favourite people within a 10km radius (I should note that that is due to my moving away...my bad) and I am used to just popping over for tea or wine when the mood strikes. I am pretty good at the every day texts that update me on weekend plans and recent life events (which I think are important too), but I would like to improve on getting to the really meaningful topics. I want opinions, dreams, struggles, knowledge, and anecdotes, both mundane and provocative.
So, I am re-committing to re-connecting. My medium of choice will be real letters, cards, anything I can write on and mail. I have had a lovely set of gold flecked, cream coloured stationary sitting in my desk drawer for years waiting to fulfill it's literary destiny. I hope to ink it's heavy pages with stories, advice, poetry, questions, and maybe even a few secrets. I think it is a very personal and thoughtful way to communicate with someone. I also like the idea that the letters may live on, and be found in a box of memories years from now, by someone's children or grandchildren, and they will be like a little snapshot of who I am and what the world is like today. Like a tiny time capsule.
I hope to write at least one letter a week, as I feel that is a realistic goal for me for now. I have a few recipients in mind so far, but I am always looking for more pen pals. If you miss me, feel like it's been too long since we caught up, or you just like receiving mail that isn't bills or fast food coupons, send me your address and I will send you a letter. You can pick a topic too if you like. Or, send me one and I will respond. I think it will be great fun. Join me.
Bees
I don't know how many years he had the bees after I was born, but I still remember him in his beekeeping suit, with the wide netted hat. I remember the buzzing white boxes in the back yard, and somehow I don't ever remember being stung. I remember our clay honey pot, it had one of those twirly yellow honey sticks in it. I would twirl the amber liquid and then let it drip, drip, drip, slowly back into the pot, over and over. It was so sweet and aromatic.
Eventually, he had some complaints from neighbours about the bees and had to get rid of his hives, which is a real shame. We needed bees then and we need them now. I recently asked my Dad for some firsthand beekeeper information for an article I was writing. What he gave me was so interesting and showed such passion for our little winged friends, that I thought I would share it.
"There are about seven species of honey bees, but the most important species is apis mellifera, they are the main domesticated honey bee. It is thought to have originated in southeast Asia about 34 million years ago. It was domesticated and spread all over Asia, Europe and Africa in ancient times. The first recorded history of human domestication is in Egypt some 4-5 thousand years ago.
I hope that we can all garner a little of the adoration for bees that my Father has so that more resources are put towards ensuring that these integral black and yellow pollinators are not lost to us forever.
Visitors
Below, see a little testimony by Jen about her time with us.
"SSI is a West Coast gem. Every time I visit, I'm engulfed by gratitude and thoughts of abandoning it all for the island life. I'm blessed to be a part of a lucky crew of amazing people who have a home away from home on the island. From the moment we arrive, Emily and Nick hustle to provide us with an unforgettable getaway.Their home is a cozy nook surrounded by all of the senses that only nature can provide - the scent, silence and comfort of the surrounding forest that leaves you feeling completely at ease. Ravens do their best to interrupt the serenity but honestly, they 'ain't got nothing on the sirens of the city. The highlight of our most recent trip was cruising around the island on scooters - sailing though windy, vacant roads with the sea at our side and honking like maniacs as an anthem testament to our newly solidified "scooter gang". A close second was a visit to the Salt Spring Island Market - everything that's there is local and the place is buzzing with community. Local or not, it really doesn't matter. You feel welcome and excited to be treated to a piece of what makes the island tick. When we're not busy eating, drinking, chatting, lounging, you'll find us playing badminton or bocce, shooting guns at cans, hot tubbing, boating, hiking ... my goodness, the list goes on. But best of all, we are surrounding by a group of friends so solid you're proud to call them family. We. Are. So. Blessed."
Why Haven't You Started Saving?
An Experiment in Almost Vegan Eating
Intervals
One week, I learned about Intervals, which simply put, is the difference between pitches in a scale. I won't try to define it any more than that, as I'm sure I would get something technically wrong. So, here I was, studying thirteen different intervals. My task was to play them all and listen to the consonance and dissonance of each one and describe the emotion that they represented. I played each of them over and over (I thank my boyfriend for his patience), listening intently. The writer in me was inspired, and instead of picking just one or two emotions, I wrote a stanza for each of them.
Desert Island Songs
What kind of songs would I like? Would it be smarter to have more inspirational songs? Would I want songs with lyrics or without? Would they all have to be songs I could sing and/or dance to? What would be most comforting if I was all alone?
I started my list, and realized I just couldn't get it down to five songs, so I detailed my top 5, but I couldn't leave the rest off the post. I figured that whomever marooned me on this imaginary island could at least let me mention them.
This song has undeniable swagger and an amazing beat. Gambino is also such a brilliant lyricist, this song inspires me to write. There are so many word plays in his music, I feel like he doesn't get enough credit for their complexity. It is also one of the only rap songs I can sing all the way through and probably my top pick if I were to ever gather enough nerve to do Hip Hop karaoke at Fortune in Vancouver. Being deserted on an island would certainly give me time to practice my performance.
I'll be honest, I struggled with what song I should round off my top 5 with. I knew I needed something electronic, but picking a favourite is quite impossible. I picked Strobe for several reasons: 1) Deadmau5 is the first electronic artist I can remember really loving, so I like the idea that I would have him with me on my island. I remember the first time I heard this song, I was at my first Deadmau5 concert during the 2010 Olympics, after I waited for 6 hours to get in to see him perform. It was worth it. 2) It's got a slow build, that leads inevitably into a series of mastered beats and melodies, that you can use to pump up a crowd, and at the same time focus them, centre them, calm them. It's like the Little Black Dress of electro, depending on how you dress it up, it is good for anything. 3) This is the song that me and some of the most important people in my life put on when we are lying on the deck of a secluded cabin getaway, at 2am on a clear night, and we just want to take time to appreciate the beauty of the stars, the music, and our existence in general.
What would your Desert Island Songs be and why?? I want to know!
These are my Honorable Mentions if I could have as many songs as I want, which really has morphed into a really long list of my favourite songs. My dance jams, my guilty pleasures, and everything in between. There is no way I could think of them all at once, so be prepared for me to be adding to this constantly and let me know great hits that I've missed!
-Burn - Ellie Goulding
-Thrift Shop - Macklemore & Ryan Lewis
-One - Swedish House Mafia
-Greyhound - Swedish House Mafia
-Don't you Worry Child - Swedish House Mafia
-You Could Be the One - Avicii
-Sugar - Maroon 5
-Maps - Maroon 5
-Payphone - Maroon 5
-Beauty and a Beat - Justin Bieber
-All Of You - John Legend
-Give Me Love - Ed Sheeran
-Fever - Peggy Lee
-Stolen Dance - Milky Chance
-Wish You Were Here - Lee Fields
-100 Yard Dash - Raphael Saadiq
-The World - Charles Bradley
-The Drugs Don't Work - Ben Harper
-As many 2 Cellos and Pentatonix covers as possible
-The Drugs - The Hold Up
-Lay Me Down - The Dirty Heads
-Ghostwriter - RJD2
-Breakeven - The Script
-A Little Party Never Killed Nobody - Fergie, Q-tip & Goonrock
-Wicked Game - Three Days Grace
-Fast Car - Tracy Chapman
-Toulouse - Nicky Romero
-Too Close - Alex Clare
-Summertime Saddness - Lana Del Ray
-Rolling in the Deep - Adele
-Disparate Youth - Santigold
-Spaceman - Hardwell
-Can't Hold Us - Macklemore & Ryan Lewis
-Feel It In My Bones - Tiesto ft. Tegan and Sara
-Midnight City - M83
-Fuckin' Problem - 2Chainz, Drake, Kendrick Lamar, A$AP Rocky
-Thriller - Michael Jackson
-Loud Pipes - Ratatat
-Old Pine - Ben Howard
-Shooting Stars - Bag Raiders
-Sweater Weather - The Neighbourhood
-Daylight - Matt & Kim
-All About You - Classified
-Dilemma - Nelly ft. Kelly Rowland
-Get Lucky - Daft Punk ft. Pharell
-Californication - Red Hot Chili Peppers
-Otherside - Red Hot Chili Peppers
-The Sun - Maroon 5
-Can't Stop - Red Hot Chili Peppers
-By The Way - Red Hot Chili Peppers
-Scar Tissue - Red Hot Chili Peppers
-Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton
-One More Night - Maroon 5
-California Love - 2Pac ft. Dr. Dre
-Gangsters Paradise - Coolio ft. L.V.
-Over My head - The Fray
-Fire in Your New Shoes - Dragonette
-The A Team - Ed Sheeran
-Ain't No Reason - Brett Dennen
-I Remember - Deadmau5
-Ghosts N' Stuff - Deadmau5
-House of Cards - Radiohead
-Stereo Love - Edward Maya & Vika Jigulina
-Ignition - R Kelly
-Call Me Maybe - Carly Rae Jepsen
-Thinking Bout You - Frank Ocean
-Sail - Awolnation
What are the first questions you ask someone when you meet them?
It also could be that we hide behind the familiarity of basic factual questions, because we are scared that if we ask total strangers things like "What really gets you out of bed in the morning?" they might think we're weird or nosey or, they may even give us a real answer like, "Actually, I've struggled with depression for most of my life, so some days, nothing can get me out of bed." Can you imagine though, what amazing conversations could be sparked by something like that? We could create way more space for discussions about our passions and goals and what really gives us a feeling of self-worth and confidence. What if some of the first questions we asked each other were more like this:
- What has inspired you lately?
- What was the last thing you did that made you feel really proud of yourself?
- What is a goal you are working on?
- If your closest friends were asked to describe you, what would they say?
- What is one of the best pieces of advice you have ever gotten?
- What's something you've always wanted to do, but you're afraid to try?
- What makes you happy?
- Describe your perfect day.
If we re-define what it looks like to meet people and talk to people and be open with people, I think we would achieve higher levels of happiness and self-esteem collectively in our communities. I think, we can change what we value and what we really want to know about each other by what we ask, and by being willing to answer. What would you want people to ask you?
"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it."
But I really think about it...for me, my biggest fear is failure, especially in my career. I figure there is no personal issue so great that I can't persevere, but my work really scares me. Don't ask me why, that's for a therapist to answer for me someday. The problem is, I am always psyching myself out before I even try something because I'm convinced I can't do it. Accountability, responsibility, success, are all buzz words that could easily strike panic into the hearts of young men and women alike who are starting out in the work force. My train of thought when I am staring a new opportunity in the face generally goes something like this:
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That Power
"This isn't a story about how girls are evil or how love is bad, this is a story about how I learned something and I'm not saying this thing is true or not, I'm just saying it's what I learned. I told you something. It was just for you and you told everybody. So I learned cut out the middle man, make it for everybody, always. Everybody can't turn around and tell everybody, everybody already knows, I told them."
-That Power, Childish Gambino
The rapper Childish Gambino, whose given name is Donald Glover, is the author of these words. He is one of my favourite writers and musicians for so many reasons, being a brilliant lyricist among them. These words are actually part of a story he tells in the latter third of the song. It is essentially about him sharing something private with someone, and they then in turn, share it with people who would use it against him, to demean and belittle. Especially as a young person, this is a hard lesson to go through. The rest of the song has a slightly different tone to it, but these particular lines resonated with me.
I started journaling when I was 10 years old, and I transcribed my thoughts, feelings, and experiences fairly regularly until I was about twenty-two. Over those twelve years, I had people secretly read my journals and use the information they found against me. My step-mother used it to punish me, my brother used it to tease me, a partner to shame me. From this, I learned a different lesson: that sharing myself made me vulnerable. That by letting my inner most secrets and thoughts be discovered, I was opening cracks in my armour that I used to shield myself against the hurtful words and judgments of the world. I felt like this made me weak, that being honest about the darkness that hid in my innermost corners wasn't welcome. I can't say this really changed my personality much, as I have always been told that I am more open than some, but it perhaps changed what I was open about. I tried my best not to give up too much that could be used to hurt me, whether with direct torment, or by my own fear of rejection.
This is a lesson that I wish I had not learned, nor do I wish that anyone learns. I feel these types of lessons are what start to strip us of that childlike ability to go forth into the world with nothing but our dreams. We hopefully haven't discovered what cruel judgement is yet, and we don't know how to be any other way but what shows up in our heads. I'm not saying it isn't important for us to learn morals, and manners and such. It would just be wonderful if as adults, we could keep that mix of imagination and self-worth that makes us feel like we can do whatever and be whomever we want and not be shamed for it.
I stopped journaling at some point, even after I lived alone and there was no one there to go through my bedside table and taint my entries with their eyes. I have always wondered why. Why did I abandon this form of self-expression that I had held so dear for so long? Why didn't I still have that urge to pummel the pages with ink in the form of my inner monologue? This question has plagued me.
I am starting to think I may understand the reason. Part of it is definitely that I have found other ways to feed my writer's urges. I am hoping though, that the main reason is that I have learned that being vulnerable doesn't make you weak, it makes you strong. That loving yourself so much and finding a level of confidence that allows you to share yourself and your ideas and your passions without fear of rejection and shame, is actually a level of strength that repels all the negative judgement they can throw at you. As Childish Gambino says, you make everything for everybody, and then nobody can use it against you. Stand for who you are and your choices and your values. I'm not saying I have mastered this, that I am impenetrable, just that I have reached a point where I understand this concept and try to practice it as best I can.
Fear of rejection I find is what drives back this feeling the most. Rejection doesn't have to be something that always means you are being told you aren't good enough though (although I admit, that I personally have a very hard time re-framing that). It can be an open space to learn something new about yourself, and become a more rounded person. It can teach you empathy, which is definitely something this world could use more of. It could even open doors to even better opportunities.
I won't even attempt to paraphrase Brene Brown, a self-proclaimed researcher and storyteller, but I do urge you to watch her TED talks on vulnerability and shame. You will learn so much on this topic in a very short time. Plus, she is hilarious. She is also an accomplished author, and while I find myself having shudder inducing University flashbacks when I read non-fiction, I am excited to get ahold of her titles and learn more from her.
I guess what I am getting at is that I want to encourage everyone to find that power inside of them, and harness it to propel you forward, so you can really share what it is about you that is unique and bond with others over what you find compatible. And maybe, eventually you can turn to those who are choosing to attack the chinks in your armour with malicious words and ask them what it is inside of them that they are afraid of, that makes them lash out.
I think one of the biggest compliments I have ever received was from my youngest sister. She told me that seeing my partner and I together taught her that she needs to learn to open her heart, because you never know who is trying to open their heart up to you. Live into your vulnerability, you never know what you could make space for by being open with yourself.
* That Power, Childish Gambino, full song here
* The Power of Vulnerability, Brene Brown, TED talk here
* Listening to Shame, Brene Brown, TED talk here
I think your head may be somewhere about here: that much the same as any person that has never had that time in their life to be completely free and answer to no one, you are terrified that if you get out there, it won't be all it's cracked up to be. That you'll be lonely, and yearn for that person that you let go, and that you might never again find a connection as strong, and it will be too late to get them back.
The thing about that is that it's not as bad as it seems it might be. Yes, you have the days that you cry yourself to sleep listening to Sarah McLachlan, and you think nothing is going to complete you but finding an intimate partner. It is from those moments you find an incredible strength that only comes from being dependent solely on yourself. There is nothing more empowering or freeing. As I have heard from many people who were married very young and had similar feelings in their youth, that gnawing feeling that you want to live with wild abandon and prove you can make it on your own, never goes away if you don't feed it.
Even people who have taken that independent period and felt ready to move past it, likely still feel its shadow in the back of their mind at times. If you are in a nurturing, respectful relationship where you both truly wish to see each other grow, in whatever way you can, perhaps this need can be satiated. I personally did make the choice to leave my first young love and take that time on my own, so I can't speak to that path.
The answer though, can't really be any definite answer at all. No one can tell you what to do or what is right. You are the one who must pull yourself from limbo and go forth boldly into a decision. That is when you really connect with that inner strength.
Once you have made a decision, that feeling of uncertainty likely won't go away for quite some time, even after you have made a choice, no matter what you do. It clings on, and learning how to grow stronger than it and not letting it make you live in guilt or doubt, is how you become stronger for the next big decision. The trick is, that whatever you choose once you abandon fear, will be the right choice, because you made it for yourself, no one else.
Letters To My Sister
Open When You Turn 19
Nineteen. That age that holds an undeniable mystical quality of independence. Use your new found freedom that society has granted you responsibly and wildly. Remember that age is just a number, and you are the one that decides your own meaning of "coming of age" no matter what a magazine or a rap song or a parent tells you. You are your own, so own it like you never have before. Take risks and abandon fear, for really it was never real at all, just an imagined weight holding down your dreams.
Make a vision and don't let anyone tell you it's not possible. Share it and inspire everyone you meet to reach higher, whatever their higher is, and climb to the top together. You might slip a few times on the way up, but those scars just show that you're living, not sitting on the sidelines. Admit when you're wrong and take responsibility for your mistakes, which you will undoubtably make, we all do. Just pull a Taylor and Shake It Off.
Most of all, be true to yourself, love your uniqueness, and appreciate those who are genuinely there for you, those boys and girls taking the same zig-zagging highway you're on. Even though the most thrilling feeling of all is learning to throw both your arms up high and let yourself ride free on the roller coaster of life, it is nice to hold someone's hand sometimes.
You already light up every room you walk into, go light up that world.
Open When You Turn 20
Welcome to a new decade!
Now that you're in your twenties, you need to immediately move to a busy city and get an overpriced apartment in a hip neighbourhood. Have several of your best friends move into the same building, preferably across the hall, and make sure someone's brother moves there too so he can drop in often and date your friends.
Wait... I forgot that life is not based on the series of unlikely circumstances in Friends that we have idolized for years. I really just wish I had someone as funny as Chandler around all the time.
Being "in your twenties" always seems to sound like you've entered an age where everything is dripping with possibility, which is sort of true. Often though, that unfortunately seems to translate into a lot of anxiety around what you should do with your life and worrying about checking off the list of things we're "supposed" to do. I say, burn the fucking list and do what makes you happy.
I remember dancing my way into my twenties. In my twenties, I decided that life was too short to give my time to people who didn't bring out the best in me; I started to question the ideals and expectations I was following and started to figure out which ones I actually wanted, and which were part of a formula my Western upbringing had instilled in me; and that I would rather be poor than stay in a job that I wasn't happy in just for a better pay check (that may have been inspired partly by the starving artist living inside me). These lessons and so many more will stay with me forever and shape who I am and how I make decisions.
Your twenties does mean that you need to put your big girl pants on though. It's terrifying and wonderfully liberating to get to that point where you have financial and emotional independence. That doesn't mean you can't ask for help with paying for school, or call home when you are having a crisis, but it's just a feeling you get. Even in those weeks when you only have $17 in the bank to get you to the next paycheque and all you can afford to eat is rice and beans and pancake mix, you feel a little like you could do anything.
If you let it, your twenties will become a tapestry of different personalities and characters. Meet as many different kinds of people as you can. You never know what you could learn from someone totally different from you. You might even discover a passion you didn't know you had. Do be wary of people who get too close too fast, you want to stick to genuine friendships. As Drake would say "Fuck a fake friends where your real friends at?"
In short, your twenties will be a tumultuous mixture of amazing experiences, some that will test you to your very wits end. It's the strong ones that rise from the Phoenix flames of their lowest points and come out a better version of themselves. Spread those wings and fly my dearest, not even the sky is the limit.
Ride
Recently, I tackled my first Spin class, at a spin club in Vancouver called Ride Cycle Club. For those of you who have never attempted this feat, I do urge you to give it a go. I wussed out about going for a really long time, for no good reason, except that I feared I might find it too difficult. I went, I loved it, and I am so happy I did. It was such an experience. that even before I had left the building, the "review" below had already written itself. I did actually send the piece to the club, and got a response from the owner, Ashley. She graciously praised it, saying that it made her day, and asking permission to share it with the ride community. I hope it is enjoyed by others as well, and hope that it inspires you to try spin, and not to be scared to sweat, and to try new things.
Ride
I wake up feeling nervous the way I used to before a track meet when I was a kid. Its not the kind of nervous that I was going to just miss first place by a fraction of a second, it is more the kind of nervous that you might get last or give up and lie down on the grass halfway. But I don't like doing things halfway.
This feeling is what brought me to my first spin class. Well, really it was Amber who invited me, but it was my desperate need to prove I can do almost anything anyone else can that made me agree, despite the crippling fear that I would be exposed as the fraud I am, as I am not as fit as I may appear at the moment.
We agree to meet at the 11am class. Always the keener, I am too early so I loiter outside until it is socially acceptable to go sign in. The first thing that happens is I see JJ Wilson, Chip Wilson's son, so I already know I must be in the coolest spin club in the city, making me feel immediately hipper. The second thing that happens is the front desk girl asks loudly and politely over the crowd and music "Is this your first time?" I've been spotted. My confused Spin Virgin eyes (also the same as the eyes of a meerkat about to be devoured by hyenas) have given me away. My cool factor tanks. I sign the waiver without reading it, as it is flipped over on the clip board so most of it is covered anyways. Standard stuff I am sure.
I get my clip shoes, which thankfully are not foreign to me due to my mountain biker past times. I get a locker and wait on a bench for Amber. She arrives and we take our place at the front, to the right of the instructor. The girl who comes to help us set up our bikes is the girl who took over my old job when I left lululemon. We chat and reminisce, although all I can really think about is that I hope she doesn't tell the team about my eminent fainting and falling off the bike. I like to believe I still have a small amount of street cred to maintain.
The things that make this particular studio special is that the classes are done in the near darkness and they blast dance music at club like volumes. In short, it's awesome. This particular fact is unfortunately not what I am focused on as I hop on to the bike and clip in. There are weights on the bikes, 2lbs on Amber's, 1lbs on mine. She says she wants to find 1lb weights, I offer to trade. She asks if I am sure and I cockily state that I have been lifting weights for 12 years, I'm sure I'll be fine. I take the 2lbs.
Our instructor's name is Ashley, and I find out later she is the owner. She is an impressive little brunette woman who is part Drill Sergeant, part DJ, part Yoga Instructor, and part Cheerleader. She's the kind of girl who you are immediately jealous of but in an admiring way. You feel like you might just absorb some of her energy by being in the same room.
The class begins, I am happy not to be called upon to put up my hand as a noob, as I am sure it is already painfully obvious. It is clear there will not be much sitting down during this class. Thankfully there is a fan behind me, as I am already sweating. Apparently the thing about spinning that no one ever told me is there is a lot of other things you have to do that are not spinning, like pulsing your arms up and down like a push-up. I swear, half the front row pulsed in perfect time to the music the whole class. When we were actually instructed to pulse, I felt like I was between falling flat on my handlebars from exhaustion and feeling so out of beat, that I would stall and my legs would snap straight, throwing me to an awkward stop.
About 15 minutes in, my lungs were burning, I was avoiding turning my resistance up by about a third of what it was supposed to be at, and my sweat towel was my new best friend. I was so happy we were in the dark, which made it acceptable to take your shirt off. At this point I decided that I should have read the waiver, because it probably said stuff like "Not liable for regurgitation of one's lungs" and "In the event that you require a stretcher, you will be responsible for the costs." I was seriously doubting if this was Amber's way of saying she wants to end our friendship, especially during the weights portion. I cursed my overconfidence as the 2lb weights I was raising above my head made me feel weaker by the rep. I seriously considered abandoning them altogether.
The music was nothing short of rave quality. Ashley was talking into a Madonna style headset mic, and counting down our pulses and push-ups over Dubstep remixes of Macklemore and electronically mastered rises and drops. Since my lungs had found their second wind, I gave myself over to the thrilling atmosphere and spun my little heart out. I really could feel it trying to escape my chest by beating so hard.
Normally, when you're in a club at 1:54am and the DJ calls out "This is your last song!" you groan and complain about how our bars should really stay open until 6am the way they do in Europe. When your spin instructor announces this, she becomes someone to be worshiped. It actually does make you want to spin with everything you have left so you leave it all behind on the bike. Your sweat that is. Cue towel.
The pulsing front row pros slow down, the resistance is turned off, and we do some group stretches. Ashley asks us to set an intention that we can go forth from the class with. Mine is that I will practice my spin skills at my gym so I can someday rock one of the coveted front row spots without shame.
As Amber and I exit, I assure her, that as she suspected, it was one of the greatest experiences ever. It is a kind of adrenaline you can't even get from well cooked street drugs. It's like finding a new form of masochistic religion that you have been looking for ever since you realized that Catholicism really doesn't cut it. Plus, it's frowned upon to wear spandex and no shirt to church. Borrrring.
Ride Cycle Club is a must on any fitness junkie's list, and a recommended for anyone ever. I text my boyfriend to inform him that I am still alive and we need to share this experience together ASAP. He enthusiastically says "Shit yeah baby!" I hope he still loves me when I am dragging him out of the class by his sweaty ankle.
You can find all their schedules and club details, here
Blast From The Pre-pubescent Past
When I was ten, I started my first journal, which I kept up pretty steadily for more than 10 years. I still have a current one, but the drive to fill it seems to have worn off. Hmmm...a thought for another day. As far as I can remember, I started writing creative pieces more seriously around twelve. I don't know if it was that my vocabulary reached a point where writing actually became possible on a grander scale, or I figured out that it was my best strategy in dealing with pre-teen anxiety, regardless, that is when my writer's instinct kicked in. I decided to dredge up some of my earliest pieces, to see if I could connect with those young days of literal inspiration. Also, I was curious what my writing would sound like now, to my more adult self. Some pieces were badly constructed, many left unfinished, some were clearly old love letters, but more than anything, it was a confused child trying to sort out what to do with her emotions that seemed to just keep getting more complicated.
There was one piece, that I remember being quite fond of, that I felt the need to bring out of my box of old memorabilia and share, especially since it was the first piece I ever shared publicly.
This was actually a "commissioned" piece. When I was in middle school, I was asked to speak at a Remembrance Day ceremony given at a local church. I was excused from class, and I spoke amongst a smattering of adults and musicians. I think I even wore a burgandy velvet dress, which means I must have been twelve. I was asked to come back the year after as well, so I must have done an acceptable job. Here is what came out.
WAR
War is a thing where people die, people fight, people cry,
War is a thing where people leave, people kill, people grieve,
War is a thing when every man goes, what will happen, nobody knows,
War is a thing when guns are fired, bombs are dropped, troops are hired,
War is a thing that gets in our way, makes us afraid, so we fear every day,
War is a thing that stops your heart, breaks your bones, tears you apart,
War is a thing where young men are lost, weapons are used, fingers are crossed,
War is a thing where all is in sorrow, awaiting the outcome, of dreaded tomorrow,
War is a thing when armies attack, coming only with hatred, but it's loving they lack,
War is a thing that turns everything red, the colour of anger, the colour of dead,
War is a thing where you go off alone, with no one to hold you, and never come home,
War is a thing when sweethearts are slaughtered, and killers don't think, about young lonely daughters,
War is a thing that makes everyone sad, missing their brothers, missing their Dads,
War is a thing that shouldn't happen at all, even if it brings victory, someone will fall,
War is combat, face to face,
Without it all,
This world,
Would be a better place.
I think now more than ever, I am so grateful to live where I do, and not have to worry that someday I may have a little girl that would actually know what all that feels like. I wrote that in a ringed notebook, sitting in my warm bedroom, knowing the me and my family would be safe in the morning. Many twelve year old girls then and now, know what real danger and sadness is, and fear for their lives and those of their families every day. My heart goes out to them.